(31-Dec-2017, 04:17 AM)DangerFox Wrote: Hello @dangerfox,

Thank you for your post. I am too the parent of a daughter whom out of the blue came out as "trans". She is a senior this year in HS and will be graduating in the summer of 2020. I am curious to know what outcome did you have with her school and name in her diploma? 
I am afraid that my daughter will be requesting this to her school counselor.  I am in the process of scheduling a meeting with the school principal to talk about this. 
I hope you are doing well. 


I’m very glad I found this place.

My daughter first brought up wanting to be male the first day of summer after 7th grade…so…2015. She had never expressed anything like this in her short 12 years. In fact, she hadn’t really said much about anything ever; and out of the blue, she sends her father and me a text saying that she’s felt this way for a “long time” and she didn’t want us to talk to her about it. Uhhh…Nope. Not gonna happen.

So, I countered with “it is unfair to drop this on us when you haven’t spoken to us about ANYTHING for 2 years.” So we took a step back and she started therapy.

Tonight I brought it up again because things kinda got back to a “normal” life and I was scared of the answer…well, she says she identifies as male, her friends call her by her preferred name, but she doesn’t want to do surgery or testosterone while she’s in high school. She does want to change her name before graduation.

This isn’t about me, of course. If she’s really transgender, then fine. I love my kid no matter what.

But I don’t think she’s trans and I can’t figure a way to broach my skepticism with her.

I told her tonight, “I just want you to do well in school so you can get out of this state…and I want you to be happy. That’s it.”

We’ve got a lot of work to do on this journey…and I’m trying to get passed my hurt feelings.

Anyway…I need a community that won’t vilify me for my position with my child.

Thanks for reading.

(12-Oct-2017, 09:30 PM)admin Wrote: The Gender Critical Support Board is run for parents and families by parents and families who share the experience of coping with a child, teenager or young adult who believes she or he is transgender. 

We are critical of the phenomenon of transgender youth growing at epidemic rates. 

The forum provides support for parents and families who would like a thoughtful and cautious approach to intervention for their gender dysphoric child. 

Most of the content is only visible to members of the board. This, publicly visible, forum is here to share what the board is about and provide a space for the members to have a voice.

Together, we share our stories, promote public awareness and respectful protest, and seek solutions and answers to questions. 

If you have a child who has desisted from a trans identification, your presence is especially welcome on the forum, and we hope you will join us. You can help other parents learn how to help their child resolve his or her distress without resorting to life-long medical intervention. 

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(27-Oct-2019, 03:46 PM)Marge Bouvier Simpson Wrote: Hello guest, welcome.

I'm so sorry to hear about what your daughter and your family are going through. Your story does sound very similar to many others. Kids come up with a shocking, completely out-of-character declaration and everyone who doesn't really know the kid insists it is 100% true, but the parents who know their child, know it is out of character and suspect the trans declaration is some kind of cry for help or indicative of some other problem are shamed, vilified and called phobic. It's completely nuts, IMHO. It's quite outrageous and would almost be amusing if risky medicalization and permanent body modifications weren't the end result.

If you haven't already, I encourage you to sign up as a member of the forum. Once your membership is activated, you'll have access to the members-only area, where you'll be able to communicate with like-minded parents who are going through situations similar to yours, and discuss issues more in-depth and in an atmosphere that's not so public as this portion of the forum.

(27-Oct-2019, 03:46 PM)Marge Bouvier Simpson Wrote: Hello guest, welcome.

I'm so sorry to hear about what your daughter and your family are going through. Your story does sound very similar to many others. Kids come up with a shocking, completely out-of-character declaration and everyone who doesn't really know the kid insists it is 100% true, but the parents who know their child, know it is out of character and suspect the trans declaration is some kind of cry for help or indicative of some other problem are shamed, vilified and called phobic. It's completely nuts, IMHO. It's quite outrageous and would almost be amusing if risky medicalization and permanent body modifications weren't the end result.

If you haven't already, I encourage you to sign up as a member of the forum. Once your membership is activated, you'll have access to the members-only area, where you'll be able to communicate with like-minded parents who are going through situations similar to yours, and discuss issues more in-depth and in an atmosphere that's not so public as this portion of the forum.